Daniel's Stuff

What makes me tick

What makes me tick.

  • I do not usually jump in immediately for a new idea or activity.  I may need time to consider all aspects of the idea before supporting it with time and talent.
  • I will generally not act impulsively.  As a result, others around me may perceive a slowness of thought or action.  This results not from slow thinking, but from complete analysis of the situation before acting.
  • I tend to think before I act.  As a result, the things I do will be purposeful and deliberate.
  • I prefer to wait until I am sure of my ground before acting.  This might mean after several visits to a new place, or after a few meetings with a new person, I will feel more open to risk or share trust.
  • I function best in an environment relatively free of conflict or hostility.  When tension mounts, I may become silent; and if tension continues, I may withdraw or avoid the situation altogether.
  • I prefer not to seek quick personal relationships, but rather build relationships slowly.  Once my relationships are formed, they tend to be lasting.
  • I do not "act my age."  I like to have fun and be silly.  However, I am very serious when the situation requires it. 

How I communicate.

  • My strength is to bring stability, security and awareness of consequences to activities.  In a sense, I am usually considered as the one with the "conscience."
  • I remain rather self-contained in social situations.  Some perceive me as being distant, but it's really shyness and caution.
  • I convey patience towards others in most situations.  This patience comes from a need to maintain harmony.  Others may read this as a strong stabilizing factor in my behavior.
  • Because I try not to call attention to my own accomplishments, I benefit from others giving recognition to me occasionally.  Constant recognition may make me feel uncomfortable.
  • I am seen as a steadying influence because of my restrained and unassuming way.
  • I am a careful and analytic listener who will generally not offer ideas or opinions unless asked.
  • When asked about my opinions, I will not share my ideas or opinions until I can express them in a way that avoids misunderstanding.
  • I usually talk with others in a reserved, diplomatic and congenial fashion.
  • I dislike having to initiate new relationships.  However, others may seek me out because I am a good listener, quiet and nonthreatening.
  • I use humor to try to break tense situations. 

How to approach me and talk to me.

  • Approach me in an honest, sincere manner.
  • Take your time and proceed thoughtfully and slowly with me.
  • Take time to be certain that we reach an agreement.
  • Allow time to ask me questions and allow time for me to answer thoughtfully.
  • When we agree on something, follow through with your end of that agreement.
  • If you disagree with me, organize your thoughts before confronting your me, meaning prepare your "case" in advance -- do your homework first.
  • Minimize our risks by providing assurances for participation.
  • Be sincere and use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
  • Keep our conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation. 

How I deal with inter-personal relationships.

  • I am a kind person.
  • I respect the privacy and property of others.
  • I calm excited or upset people.
  • I maintain high standards for myself and others.
  • I am objective and a carefully evaluate things before I begin them.
  • I am diplomatic with people.
  • I bring a feeling of security and stability to others.
  • I am an excellent listener.
  • I gather facts before offering an opinion.
  • I set standards for others to live up to. 

Things that I want and need.

  • A feeling of security for now, and in the future.
  • Sincerity offered from others.
  • No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation.
  • Time to weigh pros and cons of decisions.
  • Activities that involve just us and sometimes perhaps a small number of friends.
  • An environment free from conflict and hostility.
  • Clear responsibility and clear lines of who makes decisions.
  • I give and need physical touch from others.  Holding hands or snuggling close with a friend at times gives me assurance. 

The kind of partner I want.

  • One who is gentle and kind.
  • One who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.
  • One who is willing to share my interests and passions and share hers with me.
  • One who is good at talking and listening.
  • One who respects my beliefs, whether she shares them or not.
  • One who is honest and strong enough to do the right thing.
  • One who is bright and can share my understanding of the world as well as enjoy discussing important issues.
  • One who is financially responsible.
  • One who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding. 

The kind of partner I do NOT want.

  • One who is overly interested in her physical appearance.
  • One who focuses on imperfections.
  • One who bases her happiness on me.
  • One who is always unhappy about her life.
  • One who takes advantage of people.
  • One who can't manage her anger, who yells, or bottles it up inside.
  • One who is devious and mean to others.
  • One who censors her thoughts and opinions with a politically correct agenda.