What makes me tick.
- I do not usually jump in immediately for a new idea or activity. I may need time to consider all aspects of the idea before supporting it with time and talent.
- I will generally not act impulsively. As a result, others around me may perceive a slowness of thought or action. This results not from slow thinking, but from complete analysis of the situation before acting.
- I tend to think before I act. As a result, the things I do will be purposeful and deliberate.
- I prefer to wait until I am sure of my ground before acting. This might mean after several visits to a new place, or after a few meetings with a new person, I will feel more open to risk or share trust.
- I function best in an environment relatively free of conflict or hostility. When tension mounts, I may become silent; and if tension continues, I may withdraw or avoid the situation altogether.
- I prefer not to seek quick personal relationships, but rather build relationships slowly. Once my relationships are formed, they tend to be lasting.
- I do not "act my age." I like to have fun and be silly. However, I am very serious when the situation requires it.
How I communicate.
- My strength is to bring stability, security and awareness of consequences to activities. In a sense, I am usually considered as the one with the "conscience."
- I remain rather self-contained in social situations. Some perceive me as being distant, but it's really shyness and caution.
- I convey patience towards others in most situations. This patience comes from a need to maintain harmony. Others may read this as a strong stabilizing factor in my behavior.
- Because I try not to call attention to my own accomplishments, I benefit from others giving recognition to me occasionally. Constant recognition may make me feel uncomfortable.
- I am seen as a steadying influence because of my restrained and unassuming way.
- I am a careful and analytic listener who will generally not offer ideas or opinions unless asked.
- When asked about my opinions, I will not share my ideas or opinions until I can express them in a way that avoids misunderstanding.
- I usually talk with others in a reserved, diplomatic and congenial fashion.
- I dislike having to initiate new relationships. However, others may seek me out because I am a good listener, quiet and nonthreatening.
- I use humor to try to break tense situations.
How to approach me and talk to me.
- Approach me in an honest, sincere manner.
- Take your time and proceed thoughtfully and slowly with me.
- Take time to be certain that we reach an agreement.
- Allow time to ask me questions and allow time for me to answer thoughtfully.
- When we agree on something, follow through with your end of that agreement.
- If you disagree with me, organize your thoughts before confronting your me, meaning prepare your "case" in advance -- do your homework first.
- Minimize our risks by providing assurances for participation.
- Be sincere and use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
- Keep our conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation.
How I deal with inter-personal relationships.
- I am a kind person.
- I respect the privacy and property of others.
- I calm excited or upset people.
- I maintain high standards for myself and others.
- I am objective and a carefully evaluate things before I begin them.
- I am diplomatic with people.
- I bring a feeling of security and stability to others.
- I am an excellent listener.
- I gather facts before offering an opinion.
- I set standards for others to live up to.
Things that I want and need.
- A feeling of security for now, and in the future.
- Sincerity offered from others.
- No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation.
- Time to weigh pros and cons of decisions.
- Activities that involve just us and sometimes perhaps a small number of friends.
- An environment free from conflict and hostility.
- Clear responsibility and clear lines of who makes decisions.
- I give and need physical touch from others. Holding hands or snuggling close with a friend at times gives me assurance.
The kind of partner I want.
- One who is gentle and kind.
- One who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.
- One who is willing to share my interests and passions and share hers with me.
- One who is good at talking and listening.
- One who respects my beliefs, whether she shares them or not.
- One who is honest and strong enough to do the right thing.
- One who is bright and can share my understanding of the world as well as enjoy discussing important issues.
- One who is financially responsible.
- One who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.
The kind of partner I do NOT want.
- One who is overly interested in her physical appearance.
- One who focuses on imperfections.
- One who bases her happiness on me.
- One who is always unhappy about her life.
- One who takes advantage of people.
- One who can't manage her anger, who yells, or bottles it up inside.
- One who is devious and mean to others.
- One who censors her thoughts and opinions with a politically correct agenda.